Another old saying bastardized for the purpose of making a point.
The concept is pretty simple.
The cases or occasions where 2 people meet and discover that they have no or very few points of contention or differences in perspective and lifestyle is pretty rare.
For the most part, the successful relationships I have observed have been those where 2 people have a number of significant core values alike and then have the ability to tolerate, live with and adapt to their fellow foibles, fallibilities and failures that follow which requires patience and flexibility.
I say observed because unfortunately I have never had a long term lasting successful relationship as evidenced by 2 divorces, which probably makes me the least likely candidate to comment or express opinion on the subject matter, but, again, observation of success is at least a way of gathering information.
One thing that doesn't work is expecting your significant other to meet ALL of your expectations ALL of the time.
Kinda like the old saying -
You can fool some of the people all the time and all the people some of the time but you can't fool all the people all the time.
Substitute in "please" for "fool" and "your significant other" for "people" and you get the gist of it.
So if you wanna get close to someone, find someone that gets close to what you want and then don't throw the baby out with the bath water.
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