You Suck at Life!!!

Was talking at Wayside Pub with a friend of my daughter's, affectionately known as Miss Cup.

She was describing a particular friend of hers who had made a series of poor decisions and had pretty much messed up her life and herself.

Miss Cup was relating her thoughts about this friend when she suddenly threw her hands to the side of her head and exclaimed...

"Some People....

Just Suck at Life."

My first reaction was to think...

This Miss Cup is funny as shit.

Second thought was...

She's pretty smart to have figured out this little Life Lesson...

So Young in Life.

I've written about this issue many times.

There are exceptions BUT....

The majority of shit doesn't just happen...

We cause it to happen because we do stupid shit...

OR....

We let it happen by ignoring multiple warning signs and the caution, advice and counsel of loved ones around us who see the train wreck coming.

God and Murphy has a way of tapping those people on the shoulder to get their attention and then applying a bat to the back of the knees.

So Whadduya do if you're one of these Life Suckers?

First suggestion is talk to Miss Cup....

She'll set your ass straight!!

Second is ask yourself WHY???

Why do I keep doing this?

In most cases, the short Psychoanalysis Answer is that...

You're trying to punish yourself for something.

OR

You just don't like yourself.

Same thing.

Then ask yourself Why again???

Have a conversation with yourself.

Figure out why you do the things you do.

Why are you out to get you?

Why are you a Hazard to Yourself???

Once you begin to understand the source of the negative actions, you might be able to figure out what steps to take to divert from that Path of Destruction to a Path of Self Improvement and Love of Self....

Which is a much better road to be on.

My suggestion is to start by taking care of you physically.

Eat better (Hint.... Hint.... Think Paleo)

Get some exercise...

Anything is better than nothing...

If possible, get outside with Mother Nature...

And let her give you a hug...

She has a way of making you feel better...

Have a Good Cry....

Just let it go.

Give yourself credit for fucking up your Life...

Own it.

Then resolve to change...

To make things better.

Quit smoking and drinking so much...

It's basically just poisoning your mind and body.

Get some sleep....

Amazing what 8 hours of sleep will do for you.

When you wake up....

Accept that you probably didn't get in this position overnight.

It took a while to fuck things up this bad.

And it may take a while to dig yourself out of this hole.

But resolve to change.

Finally - do a quick test on each person you come in contact with on a regular basis...

Ask yourself this....

Is this person helping me or hurting me?

Am I better off for knowing them?

Are they a Giver or a Taker?

Once you've done that little Association Assessment, make a list of the Naysayers and the Negative Nellies and resolve to....

RUN not WALK away from those people.

Surround yourself with people who have your best interest in mind.

After about 6 months of Good Eating, Exercise, Lifestyle Correction, Sleep
and Better Company....

Look in the Mirror...

Bet you'll like you a whole lot better....

And maybe you won't...

Suck at Life so Bad!!!!